My Journey and Goodbye Facebook

Greetings to each and every person whose eyes are gracing these words fumbled forth this morning…I will begin by sincerely thanking you for your time. As always, you have heard me repeat what I truly believe, that the one commodity we have that is most precious is our time. It truly is the one thing that once spent, it is gone. Never to return. So how we spend our moments is incredibly important. And I thank you for spending your moments with me.

This will be a very random post. A letter of sincerity to put it simply. I’m always on a course of change, what those changes are, I usually don’t know. I just know they’re coming. There are some things about me that will not change as they are part of literally who I am. My family is always my priority, I will always use my profession as a Family Nurse Practitioner to serve the poor, homeless, and under-served, and I will always be looking for the next experience, adventure and will always be finding a way to hop an airplane to another unknown destination. Call it my journey, but whether you know it or not, we are all taking one. A journey. It is up to each of us how random, extreme, peaceful, spiritual, wonderful or complete we want that journey to be. It doesn’t magically happen. We choose our destiny, we map our journey, it is up to each of us to make it happen. I know this to be true from my own personal experience, my ship should have sunk a long time ago…..and yet here I am……still sailing.

cc-and-uk-2014-021“Every day you may make progress. Every step may be fruitful. Yet there will stretch out before you an ever-lengthening, ever-ascending, ever-improving path. You know you will never get to the end of the journey. But this, so far from discouraging, only adds to the joy ad glory of the climb.” (Winston Churchill)

With that being said, let’s talk Facebook. My original joining some years ago was to stay in touch with those who are miles away. My mother’s side of all family is back home in Great Britain. With the traveling that I do, I do not have friends or family in one home town kind of thing. So this was kind of a “one stop shoppe” to let people know where I am, and to keep up with everyone’s new homes, new kids or grand kids, relocation’s etc. I kept it as I thought it would be wise with an upcoming book due out next year. But hell….Twitter is for that. Pictures? Instagram is awesome and drama free. Facebook was a beautiful thing….in the beginning. What it has turned out to be recently is far far different.

I won’t blame it on our recent election, but I must say that it has brought out a very dark side of some that I know and love. The same people who posted hateful and mostly untrue propaganda about Trump are the same people who are very quiet now about the riots and hate-mongering by the losing side of Hillary Clinton. I find it amazing. And not in a good way. All I know is the past eight years have been literally catastrophic for not only myself, but my family, and my career. And I survived it. So I will survive this. As always instead of bitching, complaining, posting crap that invokes hate, anger and fear,  I DO WHAT I CAN. Where I am. With what I have.

Facebook, for the most-part, has turned out to be a narcissistic playground. It has become unproductive, full of drama, untrue news links, and to top it off, it is addictive! I find myself clicking on links and reading utter bullshit that someone I know and love would post. I would carry some of this around with me for hours……. To put it mildly it is spending my precious moments. I don’t know about you, but my moments are definitely precious. Life can be fragile. And I had to honestly ask myself…..Cathy? What the hell are you doing?

Don’t get me wrong, I have met some amazing human beings on Facebook. Some I have never actually physically met, but I have learned and been blessed by many. A part of my heart is sad knowing that these relationships will quietly end as I won’t be worth their time anymore as it will take more effort than the proverbial “click”.  It started out where it was 90% positive with the occasional negative stuff. Easy, a quick scroll. It is totally opposite now, and for the 10% positive stuff, I spend my time scrolling, frustrated, and silent. In a word? It just isn’t a healthy place for me.

I believe us as humans need a human connection. We are all disconnected, relying on social media for a quick fix, a like on a personal picture so we can feel good about ourselves, posting the latest workout photo, the attention grabbers as “worst day ever” without an explanation, the latest gossip article invoking anger and fear in the eyes it greets.  Do what I did! Quit posting! And see how many actually reach out to see if you’re dead!! It can be quite enlightening! Three out of four of my children gave up FB quite some time ago. Oh how much we learn from our children!

So I have decided I am worth more than that, as we all are, and it simply not enough for me. I have relied on Facebook for a sort of socialization as I am a chronically and very happy single woman for the past 15+ years and i travel so I spend an enormous amount of time alone.  I started a “human connection experiment” by writing letters and it has been a beautiful thing. Its personal, meaningful and real. No, I don’t have hundreds of followers anymore, but I do have relationships that have grown on paper with a pen, and that are REAL. And that has made a true difference to me, as I hope it has to them.

I am offering this invitation to anyone that is reading this, if you would like to stay in touch with me, get a postcard from my who knows where locations, and a letter or two a month, let me know! I will include you! I will leave my contact info at the end of this note. I will stay connected with people, yes. But it will be via text, or (my preference) a real phone call or a letter. Life is too short to play the “click” lifestyle when at the end of the day its only easy, it’s not real. I need real. If I get your address? I write to you. If I have had no response after three letters, well then call it baseball and I consider it three strikes…… you can always sign up for this blog as well. Another form of connection without the stress or drama.

I’ve heard it all…..”Oh I don’t write letters…..that’s too old school……takes too long……I don’t have time……” all I can say is that we all are capable, and we all have the same 24 hours. But it is perfectly fine. I accept each person for who they are. I am just feebly explaining my recent decision and change of course. If you would like to stay in touch? It doesn’t even matter if we have stood on the same carpet, I will write. Consider it. Send me an email, post a comment on this blog post. or a short note with your address on FB messenger and I will write as soon as I get it. I can promise you that.

“Letter writing is an excellent way of slowing down this lunatic helter-skelter universe long enough to gather ones thoughts.” (Nick Bentock)

And if you don’t, and our paths never cross, then I wish you all good things. I hope that your path is smooth. I hope you keep in good health, you always notice a sunset and a flower patch on the side of the highway. I wish for you that you understand that your moments are as precious as mine are, and that you take care of them, and spend them wisely. Because no matter what, we only have NOW. Yesterday is gone, and tomorrow is yet to be created. You literally have this moment that you are in.

Thank you for your moments.

Twitter: @Polley93

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Life update:

Without FB in my life, I will be posting more frequent blogs, so if you are interested in what will be going on, bookmark the page, or join the email list. I plan on at least twice per month, with weekly being optimal. I will post on my travels, my photography, and of course, lots of random!

**I am now in Globe Az until the holidays. I will travel to Northern California first week in January through end of June. I anticipate many photo days with my camera and lenses as I will be an hour from the coastline, next to a huge lake, and in the  middle of the forest. Anticipating some pretty awesome moments!!

**Many travel plans. Many.

**My book is well on the way to a completed first draft. Most of my book info and posts are on Twitter. I plan on publishing late next year, but honestly? It’s a stretch, but without a goal, you get nowhere. Knowing myself, I will pull it off. Stay in touch if you want to read it! Have no idea where it came from but it sure is turning out to be an interesting page turner! #264Moons


As Always…… Be kind.


5 thoughts on “My Journey and Goodbye Facebook

  1. I took a 2-week vacation from Facebook and found that I really did not miss the incessant clicking, fake or totally inaccurate news, and the drama! What I did find is that I received personal calls, letters, texts and emails from those who truly missed my presence and cared about what was going on in my life. I am always on the go and I am the worst and sending out things I have written, however, the writing process has gotten a little easier, I just find the post office is NOT my friend. So I will be trying harder to be a better person, sister, daughter, and friend. Thank you for being who you are and always reminding and challenging me to strive for my true potential.

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  2. You are an inspiration to us all. I am over the rants and such too. I do not like all of the negativity on FB or elsewhere. I can’t wait to read your book. In my new travels I have also met some amazing people and seen some amazing scenery. I feel blessed to have this job that takes me all over AZ and many other places.

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